Expert Guide to Squirting

Although female ejaculation is entirely natural and completely normal, it’s worth bearing in mind that once this skill has been mastered it’s much easier to trigger (and can even start happening involuntarily). Until then, practice and relax are essential.

Sensual products like massage rocks or a body massager can help with this. So can good communication with your partner, or yourself, about why you're interested in squirting. You may uncover desires that can be explored regardless of whether you squirt on the first, or hundredth try. Putting pressure on yourself to squirt will only serve to heighten your anxiety and inhibitions.

It can also be helpful to have a toy on hand that allows you to explore the range of sensations that you already enjoy and that help you to relax. Versatile sex toys are a perfect companion to squirting. The Ignite G-Spot Finger Vibrator can be used to warm the body up, build arousal with external stimulation, followed by targeted g-spot stimulation.

It’s easier said than done to relax when you’re trying squirting for the first time and even the most little things can be enough to cause anxiety.

If you’re worried about peeing during the big moment, it’s a good idea to factor in a bathroom trip ahead, and if the sheets getting wet is something that might put you off - lay down some towels or invest in a waterproof bedsheet.

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Your PC muscles play a big role in female ejaculation. We often think of tightening our PC muscles, but in fact, being able to fully relax these muscles is just as important to our orgasmic response. Afterall, orgasms involve both the contraction and release of the muscles in our genitals.

When it comes to squirting, building the muscle memory of fully relaxing the PC muscles can be very helpful. When we practice our kegels, we do the same type of release of the muscles that is needed to release female ejaculate. Working your PC muscles with kegel balls helps you to isolate the sensation of the bear down. A training set, like the Lovehoney Health Silicone Kegel Toning Set is the perfect training tool for anyone interested in squirting. They come with graduated kegel balls that increase in weight which helps you build more control over your PC muscles as you level up. They also allow you to practice the "bearing down" motion that helps with the release associated with squirting.

You can do a simple test of your PC muscle strength by inserting two fingers into the vagina. If you cannot comfortably insert two of your own fingers into your vaginal canal, your PC muscles are likely overextended, in which case learning to fully relax these muscles is particularly important and should be your area of focus when working these muscles. If you are able to squeeze snugly around two of your own fingers - your PC muscle strength is in good shape. If you're not able to snugly squeeze two of your own fingers, your PC muscles need toning.

Some women orgasm through clitoral and external stimulation alone, but for many, the most powerful squirting comes through stimulation of the G-spot, where the fluid is thought to build up in the process of arousal. Find that sweet pleasure zone, and the orgasm is all yours for the taking.

Various toys like the Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator, give targeted stimulation to the g-spot. Paired with deep, rhythmic "milking" motions, a g-spot vibrator can help to release the fluid into a pleasurable gush. Squirting is a marathon, not a sprint. You will stimulate your g-spot for some time before the fluid builds up enough to release it. That's why a dual stimulation toy or using an additional vibrator externally can be helpful to keep arousal high as you massage the g-spot.

You will know that you are close to squirting when begin to feel tingles that run down your thighs and the intensity of the targeted massage feels like it's pressing against a build up of pressure in the g-spot area.

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Let’s face it - orgasms simply don’t feel great when they’re rushed and it's not realistic to expect that any type of orgasm that requires a high level of arousal is going to happen quickly. Squirting often takes time because the build up of the fluid in the body increases with arousal. Masturbation and foreplay are absolutely key in any squirting quest.

This gives you and your partner the opportunity to explore the whole body. Enjoy a long, hot make out session. Fondle, caress, spank, and squeeze one another. Partners - pay special attention to your partner's breasts and nipples, or any erogenous zone on their body that really turns up the heat for them. Zone in on the clitoris and coax an orgasm with fingers, a tongue or indeed a vibrator before focusing in on the g-spot.

When ready, use lots of lubricant and with a well-curved g-spot massager or your hand target the g-spot with deep, rhythmic motions. With broad strokes reaching from the back of the g-spot to front or from side to side steadily massage the g-spot area with firm massage. Some receivers will need continuous vibration externally to handle the targeted internal massage, which is why it is good to have a vibrator on hand.

Squirting can happen through traditional penetrative sex with a penis or dildo. However, targeted g-spot stimulation is the most effective way to get there so make sure you're in a position that allows shallow thrusts and the right angle for hitting the g-spot.